Here’s an interesting infographic on how to have a happy relationship, as compiled by the good people behind Happify.com.
A lot of our clients are young married couples (or those just about to get married), and being a young married couple ourselves, it would be a safe assumption that as far as happy and successful marriages go, we can sure use all the help we can get.
Key learning points:
1. Cultivate positive interactions every day! Happy couples have 5 positive interactions for every negative one.
- Give compliments
- Show your appreciation
- Relive a fun memory
- Do something nice
2. Happy couples talk more. Spend more time together, do more things together.
3. Make time for intimacy. Having sex once a week makes people 44% more likely to have positive feelings. People are 55% more likely to be happier when they have sex every few days. In fact, the happiest couples have sex twice or thrice a week.
4. One of the most important factors for happiness: how you celebrate little victories.
- Show enthusiasm
- Ask questions
- Congratulate each other
- Relive the experience with your partner
5. Couples who have new experiences together report feeling more loving, more supportive towards each other, and more satisfied with their marriages.
- Go for an evening walk
- Dine at a new restaurant
- Explore a place you’ve never been
- Cook together
- Go to a concert
6. Couples in the happiest relationships bring out the best in each other. They help each other get closer to becoming their “ideal” selves.
7. Couples who can easily recall moments involving “shared laughter” reported being more satisfied in their relationship.
8. When happy couples fight, they tend to defuse the tension
- Show humor.
- Express affection.
- Conceding on certain points their partners make.
As opposed to:
- Showing contempt
- Acting defensively
- Resorting to name-calling
- Tuning out
9. According to a 20-year British study, the people who are happiest with their marriages:
- Have been married 5 years or less
- Don’t have children
- Have college degrees
- PLUS the man is gainfully employed.
10. Kids impact a couple’s happiness as well. Only 33% of couples feel just as satisfied (or more satisfied) than before.
Married couples are unhappiest when kids are in preschool, then increase once the youngest kid has grown up.
This highly enlightening infographic was brought to you by the good people of Happify.